tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-90251898080808321852024-02-07T05:37:42.968-08:00Her Desire, His RulesJust an ordinary southern gal in a wonderful DD relationship with my loving husband! Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-69214404276954618882017-07-06T11:49:00.002-07:002017-07-06T11:49:59.946-07:00DD in my past to DD presently! <span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>Life is good now with DD but with my ex-husband it was far from good! I was 17 years old when I met him and he was 29 years old (need I say more but I was a rebellious teen who thought her parents were just mean). After a year of my parents and I struggling with the ups and downs with this relationship they finally realized I was not going to stop seeing him so when I turned 18 years old they finally gave me their blessing to date him (without me sneaking around to see him that is). I dated him through college but ended up quitting college to marry him at 20 years old and thinking that life would be good with him from that day forward! </i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>He was a natural dominant which attracted me to him in the first place and he could walk in a room and everyone would notice him and there was something about him that just commanded respect. From the start of dating him he told me that domestic discipline is something that he would not live without so if I didn't want that then we would have to part ways. I couldn't believe that he even knew the word "domestic discipline" because here I thought I would have to introduce it to him eventually because I also knew in my mind that I could not and would not live without it. For me this was a sign that we were meant to be (because who really finds what they really want in a relationship that easily?). </i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>First year of our marriage was great and the DD was going well too. He set rules, I followed and if I disobeyed then there would be a consequence. It was a lot like the traditional 50's type DD and I was fine with that. But then the honeymoon period came to an end and things changed drastically with him which confused me. He introduced me to D/s which I was very reluctant but he just wanted to add this to our relationship and not take anything away from it according to him. Soon the relationship became abusive where he would force me into things I didn't want to do and of course I really had nowhere and no one to turn to so I dealt with it throughout the marriage. I thought of going back to my parents but of course I didn't want to hear "We told you so" therefore I was stuck. </i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>The DD got rough with him and he would take out his anger on me during punishment spankings to where I was not able to sit for weeks and walking was hard. The punishments got harsher and harsher so I tried to just listen to the rules to stay out of trouble but when I accomplished that he then took it a step further and punished me anyways and in his sick mind he thought he had every right over me and my body because we were married. There was no such thing as consensual DD or consensual sex as far as he was concerned and I allowed it to happen :( For the life of me I could not figure out what happened to us, our marriage and most of all what happened to him?!?! To this day I still look back and wonder what did I do wrong to create this?!?! Was I the reason he turned to this dark side of DD and D/s?!?! </i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>Fast forward to my relationship now with TX and of course it's the total opposite of my first marriage because after getting out of that marriage (that TX helped me get out of) I told myself that I would NEVER allow another man to abuse me in that manner whether I ever did DD again or not. TX loves me for me and not because of how I look or act but because he loves the true me. He has shown me what love really is and how a loving DD relationship is supposed to be. TX and I meant online while I was still married to my first husband and at first I was just looking for someone to talk too because I felt so isolated with what was going on in my first marriage. </i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>From the start of chatting online with TX I could tell that he was a great guy and not only because we had the same interests (such as DD) but because he actually TALKED to me on a daily basis about everything under the sun and he was very genuine and really wanted to get to know me (that's what first attracted me to him). We met through an online AOL Chat room for people who were interested in DD and/or D/s and he was not actually in the room but I was looking through profiles and found his to be very interesting so I emailed him to introduce myself and three days later he emailed back and that's how our relationship started. I was very leery to start any type of DD relationship with anyone ever again because of what happened to me in my first marriage but I want to also say that I didn't allow that to stop me from pursuing what I knew I needed and wanted but I was a lot more careful the second time around than I was the first time around. </i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>After over a year of talking to TX through only online chats and emails I finally confided in him about what was really going on with me. I told him from the very start that I was married so I was looking for nothing except to talk and he was fine with that because we had a connection with each other that we both felt so I guess we didn't feel like we were wasting any time. But what I didn't tell him was that I was in a abusive DD relationship so I felt after a year it was time to tell him what was really going on with me. I told him and at first he was angry that I didn't tell him a lot sooner but he did understand why I didn't. We had at that point both fallen in love with each other over the net but neither one of us had admitted it to each other. From that moment on let's just say that TX was my prince who saved me from the wicked soon to be ex-husband. </i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>*To be continued...................</i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-39682733137622462472017-07-06T11:43:00.002-07:002017-07-06T11:43:33.971-07:00I knew what I wanted, needed and desired<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>Learning about myself throughout the years and learning what I desired, needed and wanted has helped me to be who I am today. I have always known that a DD lifestyle is what I wanted, needed and desired and I knew that was something that would never change. At the age of 16 years I knew that a vanilla relationship was not for me and although I was young I just knew what I wanted to be truly happy. I only had one vanilla relationship in high school but some would say that I was to young to know what I truly wanted but growing up in a DD home is what set me apart from the normal 16 year old back then. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>You see I grew up seeing my dad lead and my mom obeying, I grew up hearing and seeing my mom spanked for her misdeeds, I grew up in a home that was dysfunctional (what family isn't a little on the dysfunctional side) but we all loved and respected each other and I truly believe that seeing my parents get along and hardly fighting set a very good example for me as a child. I remember thinking to myself as a pre-teen "Chelle this is what you want and need"!</i></span><i style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"> So at the young age of 16 years after a "vanilla" relationship I decided that a relationship with DD is what I wanted. I was always fascinated with spanking and I even had some D/s tendencies and that is where I started to explore at a very young age. Fast forward a couple of years and I met my first husband who introduced the DD and D/s world to me and boy was I in for a surprise! </i></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-59740606492596890102017-07-06T11:26:00.001-07:002017-07-06T11:37:04.955-07:00The Brat Side of my Personality! <span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>Just trying to make sense of this thing we call DD! I have been in DD relationships before I met TX and when I was younger I was confused even though I was raised and grew up in a DD family. I feel that it can be confusing even to the most experienced couple practicing this lifestyle. What it has brought to my marriage with TX has been AWESOME and I would never want to be without it in our relationship because I think we both would be miserable. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>I am NOT your typical TIH and I feel that TX is not the typical HOH in the sense that we actually have an understanding on what we both want in our relationship but I am not beneath him (although I know my place). We have regular sit down talks where we both voice our thoughts, opinions, what could be better, what could be deleted and what could be added to our DD relationship. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>I am a brat but again I know my place and I know what's allowed with bratting and what's not allowed with bratting. I have heard a lot of backlash in the DD world (DD chats, DD forums etc.) where a TIH should NOT brat because it's disrespectful to her HOH. Who says she is being disrespectful if her HOH approves it? When I first met TX he exactly knew what he was getting into with me LOL and he likes the sassy, feisty and bratty side of me to a point and again I know my place. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>I guess my point is my personality is on the sassy, feisty and bratty side and TX does not want to change that about me and that was one of the things that attracted him when we first met and I don't want him trying to change my personality. I was born with my personality and I am happy with it and my dear HOH LOVES IT!!!! Every relationship in the DD lifestyle is different and no relationship is the same and that's OK because let's face it if we were all the same then what a boring world that would be :) </i></span><br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-23721981431646847272014-03-27T18:30:00.001-07:002014-03-27T18:36:09.487-07:00Not feeling it! Lately there has been something missing from TX and I DD relationship and because I have a very hard time telling him anything when it comes to DD (yes even after 12 years) I really haven't said much to him except through my daily journal writings to him. I have been having a really hard time pinning down the exact right words to say until today that is! For the most part TX is very consistent with me when it comes to disciplining me when I break one of the various rules we have set in place and for the most part everything during the spanking session is right on target as far as lecture, punishment , CT etc.....but for me there is still something missing.<br />
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Last night is a prime example of what is truly missing from our DD relationship and from his point of view I am sure he thinks everything is fine and dandy but from my point of view it is not. Yesterday I forgot to write my journal writing to him (rule broken) and then I didn't complete my food journal (another rule broken) so I knew that would result in a discipline. Usually TX wants to take care of the matter right after work because if we wait , have dinner, talk and relax then we end up to tired later in the evening to get it done. Last night was different and TX never said a word about ANYTHING so I just left it alone to see what would happen. Well we ended up falling asleep in bed until 11 p.m. , waking up to get ready for bed and all of a sudden he wants to spank me when I am half asleep and he is more than half asleep so I say "Can't we just wait until tomorrow night" and he agrees.<br />
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Now really in my mind what I want him to do is take TOTAL CONTROL of the situation and tell me that he is HOH and he makes the decisions therefore I am getting my spanking now....period the end but do you think I could have it that easy? Hell No!! I was so furious last night that I wanted to be a BIG BRAT but I didn't ...I just held everything inside and went to sleep silently crying. Now in TX defense he would tell me that he was RESPECTING MY WISHES that I am to tired to deal with a spanking and he wouldn't see a problem with doing that and postponing it until the next night but in my opinion I am still CONTROLLING THE RELATIONSHIP when he allows this! We have had many discussions on this very problem we have been having for awhile and the conclusion is he thinks this is out of respect for me and why would he want to FORCE me into doing anything I wouldn't want to do because I am tired!<br />
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So in conclusion I feel this is the very reason why I brat a whole lot and keep on breaking the same rules over and over and over again. I feel that he isn't taking enough control and when he doesn't take control then I just break a rule here and there, I get spanked for it and all is well for a few days until the next incident but nothing really is ever resolved. It's very irritating and frustrating to me but to him it's NO BIG DEAL! I feel that it's a very big deal when it effects me the way it does .....I stew over it for days and days until I can't take anymore and I start breaking rules (to get his attention I feel) and when that doesn't work I then just blow up in his face over it and he is like "Whoa where did that come from" .....well if you were LISTENING to me then you would know where it came from you doofus is what I REALLY feel like saying to him! Today I actually told him how I truly felt in my daily journal to him so hopefully he won't ignore it and we will talk about it and get it resolved once and for all because I truly can't take much more of it.<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-79938174776395531422014-03-16T13:44:00.001-07:002014-03-16T13:44:04.187-07:00Spanking After a Hot Shower = Not Good! For the first time in our entire relationship I experienced a spanking after a hot shower and boy oh boy I didn't like it one bit! Now I have a very high pain tolerance so of course I didn't think nothing of it and thought to myself " I can take this and no biggie" , again I was VERY WRONG!!! TX hardly ever catches me off guard but he did yesterday. We had a really good morning together and ate breakfast, talked etc. TX asked me to get ready because we were needing to leave soon to get our errands done because we were pressed for time due to the fact that we were going to be meeting our DD friends from the ADDS Chat room for dinner. So the obedient "Angel" that I am went to take a shower and get ready :) I come out of the shower into our bedroom and TX was there waiting for me and told me I was going to get the spanking I earned from the night before. The first thought in my mind was "I just took a hot shower" but I have learned not to argue or try to talk TX out of spanking me because it just makes the punishment all the worse. So I automatically said "Yes Sir" and he told me to make myself comfortable! When TX tells me to make myself comfortable meaning I am allowed to choose the spanking position he is going to spank me in this really means I won't be comfortable for long!<br />
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So the position I chose was something similar to the picture above because for the most part it's comfortable until the spanking starts lol. There are times where I wish TX wouldn't give me a choice on what position I am to get punished me but after many talks at our DD sit downs his view is he makes the decisions on how he wants to punish me so I guess in some ways I get that but it doesn't mean I don't like it. This spanking HURT A LOT and usually I keep very still with spankings but not this one! He started out with leather (which is my favorite) and the sting building up was quick and I was all over the darn bed! TX usually never has to hold me down in any kind of way but with this spanking he did have to place his hand on the small of my back. I don't like when I lose control during any type of spanking and what I mean by losing control is moving to the point where he has to hold me down in some way , crying (makes me feel to vulnerable) or letting him know by my actions that I am not liking the spanking. I am not naturally submissive and TX and I are both OK with this in our relationship. He ended up using the leather strap, bath brush, white lightening and evil wooden spoon. By the time all was said and done I was very sore , sorry that I broke the rules the day before and in tears! I think that TX now has a new trick to make sure I feel spanked and punished because that is one complaint I have been having lately is just not really feeling punished or spanked enough. Having a high pain tolerance really is hard not only on me but also on TX because he has a very hard time gauging if I have had enough! The spanking after a hot shower does the trick for me or at least it did this time ;) Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-46221023973414742312014-02-25T12:43:00.001-08:002014-02-25T12:43:03.043-08:00Feeling Stressed Out! <b>I haven't updated in months and for that I sincerely apologize but I guess there is just so much going on in my life right now and with TTWD being up and down it's hard for me to sit down at my computer and blog here :( When I am feeling like things aren't going well in my relationship with TX as far as DD goes then I usually try to stay away from everything that has to do with DD. Right now I have a lot of things going on between my job , my doll business and personal family issues that I am under a tremendous amount of stress and at it's really starting to get to me! Usually when I am stressing out I just put it out of my mind and try not to think about the "stress" and that works for a time but then I get to a point where I just blow up at TX which is not good at all. We have tried stress relief spankings and those work for a time but it seems over time they don't work well at all and it's like I want negative attention from him therefore I will "brat" for negative attention (if that makes sense). We do communicate openly with each other although I always can't communicate face to face and I write down what is going on in my head to him with the one email a day I have to send him before the end of the day. Right now it doesn't help that my hormones are way off kilter so this is some of the reason why the last two weeks have been very hard on my butt :( I usually don't get into a lot of trouble with TX but I have to say the last two weeks I have and it's really starting to bother me. So anyways I just wanted to update to let ya'll know I am still around and why I haven't been blogging much lately. I feel I can contribute a lot to the DD world so I plan on really trying to make time to blog every</b><br />
<b>week :) </b>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-29446459003927162102013-10-05T05:21:00.000-07:002013-10-05T05:21:39.459-07:00Going Through A Rough Phase Well I have been struggling to write my feelings down with anything relating to DD or D/s and that is why I have not written a post. TX and I have been on a different page lately and as much as I hate to admit it I have been a BRAT and getting spankings around here have been on a daily basis for me lately :( I am going through something which I am not sure if it's normal or not but with TTWD define normal?<br />
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I have been going through this phase where I just don't want to please TX and it's been a rough ride for both of us although a rougher ride for my butt. I blame my past but I need to get over the past because I am in the present with a wonderful guy who loves me for me and who accepts everything about me even my bratty behavior at times. I am truly having a hard time with submitting and I am trying to do what he asks of me but for some reason I just don't want to give in to him easily or without a fight.<br />
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Last night I got into trouble again for not turning in my 4 p.m. journal writing and what was my excuse? I didn't feel like it! I mean what is wrong with me? I even couldn't believe that I was trying to spout off excuses to TX because I know him well enough to where he doesn't take excuses at all period. In fact he will spank me harder and longer for using dumb excuses like the ones I tried last night. He basically told me he is sick and tired of hearing the excuses and to STOP using them!!!<br />
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After the spanking was over I walked away very angry and not feeling right at all and I knew something wasn't right because usually I walk away from a spanking feeling content and happy that TX took a stand and put me in my place :) I didn't communicate my feelings to him and just decided to try and deal with it myself .....BIG MISTAKE! I have a hard time communicating my feelings to TX and he gets pretty frustrated with me ....heck I would get frustrated with me too! I think I walked away angry because I feel that my excuses are valid reasons and TX disagrees with me and I am trying to be submissive and see his side but it's NOT WORKING for me.<br />
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So because I was angry I allowed my bad feelings to fester for the rest of the night and when that happens it never ends well for me. I withdrew from TX , told him to leave me alone and pouted which is never good for my butt. It's like I have been getting into these awful moods and I can't shake them and TX gets frustrated because all I can tell him is to "Leave me alone" and in turn that makes him feel rejected. I don't do it on purpose and I hate myself when I do it and I feel so guilty for days afterwards.<br />
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Well last night he had just about had it with me although he never acted angry (TX is a pretty calm and collective guy and in the 12 years I have known him he has never yelled at me or been angry towards me) he told me to flip over in bed because he had every intention of spanking me with the evil paddle he had in his hand. I have NEVER refused a spanking but I did this time and I just made things worse on myself.<br />
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I don't think he could believe that I had actually refused to turn over on my tummy when he had asked me too. Heck I couldn't believe I did it either :( So he asked me again to please flip over and so I did. I didn't want to make it any worse than I already had. He gave me 10 good licks with the paddle and I was in tears not so much from the pain of the spanking but from disappointing him and I was also disappointed in myself.<br />
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A mix of DD and D/s have been in my life for a little over 20 years and I don't think it has gotten any easier for me to deal with on occasions. I feel that you have to work harder at your relationship when you introduce DD into the equation but that is my personal opinion and from my personal experiences. TX and I have our good moments , bad moments and rough moments with it but it's something that neither one of us would give up on. TX needs this in the relationship just as much as I do. I need the control in my life and I have always needed that and that is the reason why all of my relationships consisted of some sort of D/s or DD in them. I grew up in a DD household so for me this has been the "norm" all my life. Once I get over this hurdle of not wanting to please TX things will be back to normal for us. I just hate myself when I act this way :( Once TX punishes me for something he forgives and forgets but it's not that easy for me. I tend to stay mad at myself for awhile over it but I am getting better but I am definitely a work in progress :)<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-73311441378587052382013-09-15T06:44:00.000-07:002013-09-15T07:26:07.159-07:00Power Struggle? <span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><i>Feeling really irritated at myself and wondering what in the world is wrong with me? I want to be able to take a good spanking like a big girl and without tears but truly I think what is going on is a power struggle between TX and I. For me being a strong and independent woman is important but it's also very important to TX as well because if something happens to him he doesn't want me to be helpless. So when I show my emotional side during a punishment then I feel vulnerable and weak therefore I sometimes will go into a head space in order to block out being emotional but then I feel I am controlling the situation and I don't want to do that. Because I have a very high pain tolerance I have a very hard time crying just from the pain of a spanking BUT what does get me very emotional during a punishment is knowing what I did to disappoint TX as that bothers me the most and I am usually very upset emotionally before the spanking even starts. I have discussed this with TX and whether I cry or not does not bother him because if I have earned a spanking then he said he will administer it and then all is forgiven and I have a clean slate and the incident that got me in trouble is put behind us. </i></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><i>I guess I don't want to feel like I am controlling the situation by not crying as I don't want TX to think I am not sorry or I just don't care because that is not the case. There have been times where I feel he should have spanked me longer or harder because I didn't feel sorry enough and I have told him so and he would oblige and spank me longer or harder until he felt I was sorry. Now some would look at that as me " controlling" the punishment but TX wants me to tell him if I feel I need more because he has a hard time knowing how much is enough because of my high pain tolerance. Now if I am crying and an emotional mess then it's easier for him to see that I have learned my lesson and then I don't need to tell him if I need more because usually I don't when I am very emotional. Now I am not allowed to tell him I have had enough because he decides that and I respect him enough NOT to try and control that in our relationship. I just want to be submissive as possible and I feel that with this issue I am not being submissive but TX doesn't see it that way so I guess I am just worrying for nothing? I try to strive to be the best wife to TX as possible and sometimes I feel like I am failing but he always encourages me and tells me I am not failing so that makes me feel better :) I do think a lot of the way I feel is due to my first marriage that failed and that is why I am always checking myself and making sure that I am doing what is right in my marriage now! </i></b></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-26013321283351045032013-09-04T21:10:00.001-07:002013-09-15T07:23:09.572-07:00The Strap And Paddle , Oh My!!!Yesterday was a pretty good day but I woke up in a rotten mood and I could not for the life of me figure out why? I knew I had to get through the day but I knew how hard it was going to be to do that especially when I see TX all day since we both work from home. So I try to shrug off my bad mood and get ready for work and go downstairs and TX greets me with his smiley self and hands me my coffee and I think to myself "Michelle you are so lucky to have him". He asks me how I am feeling and I respond " I am fine". Now usually I talk his ear off while we are drinking our coffee together but I was quiet and he knew something was wrong!<br />
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We got through the day but I was still in a rotten mood at the end of the day and at dinner he started to question me again and I snapped and said ....."What in the hell do you expect from me?". Before I even realized what I had said he told me to go to the corner. And I replied "Are you kidding me?" Now when I am upset and feeling like I had been feeling all day I tend to get mouthy towards TX and that is what I was doing but it was the wrong thing to do. He said "Does it look like I am kidding?" I decided not to continue to challenge him further because I already knew I was in big trouble. So I silently went to the corner as instructed and waited. I started to quietly cry as I was coming to the realization what a BRAT I had been and I felt terrible. </div>
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I could hear TX getting the implements ready that he was going to spank me with and I got nervous and thought to myself "Why Michelle , why do you have to challenge him?". As I am standing in the corner he comes up behind me and asks me "Chelle why are you in such a bad mood?" And of course without thinking I snap at him again and say "How should I know .......your the boss why don't you figure it out!!" Uh oh wrong thing to say especially when he has the razor strap in hand and after the last word came out of my mouth he applies one hard smack with that strap across the seat of my pants that got my attention. Tears roll down my cheeks and and I tell him that I am sorry but I am just so overwhelmed with work, family issues etc. but I know these excuses are not going to fly with him and he says "That is not an excuse to treat me with disrespect Chelle" I say "Yes Sir I realize that and I am really sorry". He says "Not as sorry as you are going to be after I spank you". </div>
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He asked me to go into the middle of the living room where he had a dining room chair and told me to take off my jeans and panties and get into position over the chair and I reluctantly obeyed. As I was in position and what seemed like forever to feel the first smack of that dreaded strap I was thinking how dumb I had been to get into this position! After the first official smack of the strap he told me I would be getting 12 with the strap and 12 with the paddle .....gulp! I knew I deserved it but I wasn't accepting it and I said to him "Your mean to me" and he said that he is very disappointed in me and he planned on teaching me a good lesson. I took the first 12 of the strap pretty good but I was dreading that evil paddle :( He had me switch positions by taking the chair away and had me bending over touching my hands flat on the floor for the 12 swats of the paddle. </div>
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He instructed me to count out each swat with a Thank you Sir and I was not happy about it but I dared not to disobey. As the first swat landed I said "One thank you Sir" and I thought how am I going to get through 11 more swats. As the second, third, fourth and fifth swat landed I am in tears and can barely compose myself so MG allows me to pull it together before he resumes with the rest of the paddling. After I was allowed to get it together I resumed the position for the last 7 swats which I had a VERY HARD time taking! When MG and I were first together I was able to manipulate my way out of a spanking or if I cried hard enough he would feel bad and reduce the number of swats but I no longer can do that and he doesn't care if I start crying or not because what he says he always follows through now. It used to bother me when he wouldn't follow through so it is a good thing that he now follows through but secretly I sometimes wish I could get out of a harsh spanking just because I don't feel like dealing with a harsh spanking but his view is "Then behave"! </div>
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After the spanking I had to go back into the corner to reflect on why I had got into trouble and think about how I can prevent getting punished like that again and then MG and I cuddled and talked about things I could have done before having a complete melt down and getting punished for it. I tend to hold things in and try and handle things on my own because I don't want to bother MG with the issues because he has enough issues he is trying to handle so I want to ease his burden but as he has explained to me when I do that I am being counterproductive and eventually everything I have bottled up inside is going to explode and even though I didn't mean to snap at him and be disrespectful that is what happened and how I get into major trouble. I try to put this front on that I am this strong and confident woman who can DO IT ALL but then eventually it comes crashing down on me. MG is my husband and my help mate and I need to learn how to allow him to help me and as he has said we need to work as a team to help each other so this is something I am working hard on because there is nothing more rewarding to see in his eyes of how proud he is of me when I do things the right way :) </div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025189808080832185.post-2827219777663369192013-08-31T20:50:00.000-07:002013-09-15T07:24:22.925-07:00Can someone who LOVES spanking actually be punished with spanking?<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Do I liked to get spanked? Yes, but is it possible for someone who enjoys spanking actually be punished with spanking? In my case the answer is yes! I have been asked this question many times in the D/s and DD world and some get it and some don't get it. For me </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">feeling punished isn't just through spanking alone as there are many other factors. When I have broken a rule and disappointed TX that alone is sometimes punishment enough for me although he would disagree I am sure ;) </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Throughout the years I have built up a high pain tolerance and it is what it is and it won't change therefore we have to figure out ways where spanking will work for me in order to change behaviors. TX and I have been together long enough to where he has figured me out and figured out ways to punish me where it will effect me and I am very thankful to have an HOH who can do that for me. Sometimes he can have me in tears even before a spanking will start because I feel so bad for disappointing him and to see the hurt in his eyes is enough to bring me to tears. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We do what works for us in TTWD and what works for us is when I feel like I need a spanking I will ask for a maintenance spanking and he obliges but when I have broken a rule then he decides the punishment and I have no say in that. Sometimes I want spanked for stress relief and other times I just need to feel his control and dominance so I will ask for a spanking and then other times I just want a nice good girl spanking :) So just because someone loves to get spanked doesn't mean that they can't be punished with spanking , at least not in my case :) </span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05205072234978274754noreply@blogger.com5